Know what I think is really sad? People who end their posts on message boards with LOL. "Haha seriously that is the pot calling the kettle black LOL."
Its like laughing at your own joke. It usually only happens when a joke isnt funny... or is in such poor taste that we need to know that its a joke.
When you are witty and funny... its great.
When you are lame and trying too hard... it comes off pathetic. LOL.
...and no where for it to go.
I found out this past weekend that a family friend of mine, who I considered a brother, passed away. He committed suicide. He was 40 years old. He was found DAYS after the incident in a house that he was sharing with his uncle. His uncle was also dead from stab wounds.
The newspapers are jumping to the conclusion that he killed his uncle. Well, my brother was a felon. (but thats a whole 'nother story) But he wouldn't do that. I've seen him crazy as all get out and he wouldn't do that.
I had a feeling when he left California that I wouldn't see him again. I just sang him happy birthday on his cell phone two weeks ago. I wish he would have picked up. I miss him. He used to call me "baby girl." And I gave the "best hugs."
I "told" him that he had better not show up in my dreams, and if he wanted to like... communicate that it had better be to my face. In daylight, preferably. I've been crying on and off. I hate crying... and I hate people knowing I'm crying.
I found out this info last weekend while at Palm Springs with my FSIL, FMIL, FGMIL, a friend and her mom. Not my mom... not my Ben. I got a call, and asked my mom if she knew why my other "brother" was calling me. She had a big long pause. I was like.. "what?" (I was secretly hoping he was calling cause he was gonna score me some race tickets or something GOOD...heh). She just said. "Harvey died." She told me that he shot himself. I was like..."Uh. That sucks." Because I didn't know what to say. She said, "I just didn't feel like putting on clothes and going over to tell you." I said, "MOM! I'm in Palm Springs." She had totally forgot.
We are all broken up about it. I miss him a lot.
But I know he's around. I felt him in Palm Springs. Ben kinda saw him tonight. I'm lucky. He's around.
Well, the world now knows that Mel Gibson said bad stuff about Jews while drunk. Now, I'm not the biggest Mel fan... I kinda think he's a bit of a nutjob. Though, he's a couple rungs down from Tom Cruise on the ladder of nutjobia. BUT. I kinda feel bad for him- who hasn't said stupid things while drunk? Who hasn't driven a car entirely sober? (besides me, of course ;) Should he have done these things? No, he's famous- and thats so STUPID. But sheesh, it makes me laugh when I hear all the people who judge him because of it. The only reason its a big deal is because he's famous... a famous Catholic, even.
I was pissed at first when I heard about all this going down. (And I did get some sick little pleasure that I knew about it before Ryan Seacrest dropped it as BREAKING NEWS on his morning show). But, the more I thought about it, the more I kinda felt bad for him. A little. Because we've all been there. Swearing at someone on the road, laughing at a dumb joke, things said while being drunk. Racial epithets get used. Most people don't MEAN anything by them and wouldn't say it to a persons face, for fear they'd offend them. It doesn't make it right... it just makes it common. I don't think Mel has any excuse for what he said. But I really think that his apology is the BEST apology I've ever heard.
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MEL SAYS SORRY TO THE JEWS
Tue Aug 01 2006 11:10:45 ET
August 2, 2006 -- There is no excuse, nor should there be any tolerance, for anyone who thinks or expresses any kind of Anti-Semitic remark. I want to apologize specifically to everyone in the Jewish community for the vitriolic and harmful words that I said to a law enforcement officer the night I was arrested on a DUI charge.
I am a public person, and when I say something, either articulated and thought out, or blurted out in a moment of insanity, my words carry weight in the public arena. As a result, I must assume personal responsibility for my words and apologize directly to those who have been hurt and offended by those words.
The tenets of what I profess to believe necessitate that I exercise charity and tolerance as a way of life. Every human being is God’s child, and if I wish to honor my God I have to honor his children. But please know from my heart that I am not an anti-Semite. I am not a bigot. Hatred of any kind goes against my faith.
I’m not just asking for forgiveness. I would like to take it one step further, and meet with leaders in the Jewish community, with whom I can have a one on one discussion to discern the appropriate path for healing.
I have begun an ongoing program of recovery and what I am now realizing is that I cannot do it alone. I am in the process of understanding where those vicious words came from during that drunken display, and I am asking the Jewish community, whom I have personally offended, to help me on my journey through recovery. Again, I am reaching out to the Jewish community for its help. I know there will be many in that community who will want nothing to do with me, and that would be understandable. But I pray that that door is not forever closed.
This is not about a film. Nor is it about artistic license. This is about real life and recognizing the consequences hurtful words can have. It’s about existing in harmony in a world that seems to have gone mad.
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I think he did a good job.